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Creating Opportunities &
Celebrating Difference

AP Cymru – The Autism Charity provides direct, bespoke support to autistic individuals and their families during all stages of their journey. We provide exclusive inclusive activities for the whole family, Autism Champion Training, clinics, workshops and a Face2Face support service.

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3 days ago

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Donna & Callum interviewed on Radio Cardiff with our Charity Patron- Richard Mylan 💜

Nathan & Wayne are Charity Patrons of ours too and to have this experience with all 3 of them was brilliant!

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#APCymru #autism #unconditionallove #disability #diversity #differentnotless #diagnosis #sen #adhd

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4 days ago

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Tune in and listen tomorrow 💜The Wyburn & Wayne Show
Friday 13th Sept 11-1pm
Radio Cardiff
With special guests Richard Mylan speaking about his BBC Documentary Richard & Jaco Life With Autism
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And Donna Armstrong
In partnership with Visit Cardiff / Croeso Caerdydd
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6 days ago

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We are not ignoring you 💜I can't tell you how many times I've been startled by someone who thought I was ignoring them because they raised their voice or got close to me without warning.

I think a lot of neurodiverse people have experienced this. They're off in a corner somewhere, safe in their own little world, thinking about their favorite movie or game or book, when suddenly--SOMEONE IS RIGHT IN THEIR FACE YELLING AT THEM!

It's basically the equivalent of a NT peacefully watching the sunset on the back porch when an intruder leaps out of the bushes!

For some of us, it's terrifying and traumatizing and brings on an instant meltdown. People have PTSD from being startled all the time. I know I do.

NTs, if you think the ND person in your life is ignoring you out of rudeness, this is 9 times out of 10, not the case. We're not ignoring you at all. "Ignoring" implies purposeful intent, and that's rarely what's going on.

Here's what's probably happening instead:

1) We are thinking deeply about something and are totally immersed in it. We are very inward-directed people, so when we think, we go inside of ourselves and live out the whole experience in our heads. We have no idea you're there. We barely know WE'RE there!

2) We are not awake yet. Neurodiverse people have a difficult time with changes to our current state of being. If we're asleep, we want to stay that way, awake, stay that way, wet, stay that way, dry, stay that way. Some of us need a few HOURS to be fully alert after waking up.

3) We don't identify with our names. According to the responses to a post I did a few weeks back, many ND people just don't feel connected to their names and, therefore, don't respond to them because it just blends into the rest of the background noise.

4) We have slower processing time when it comes to outside stimuli. We may take 30 seconds to a minute to hear you, process your presence and words into cohesive language, load the appropriate response in our brains, arrange our facial expressions and tone of voice carefully so as not to offend and/or be abused, and carry out the correct response. It can be a VERY complicated process!

5) We may have sensory overload. When we're overloaded, we can't take in any more information. "All circuits are busy. Please try your call again later." It's not personal, it's neurology.

Are there times when we actually ignore people? Sure. We may try to avoid a social interaction (especially with someone we've had a negative encounter with in the past), but even that's not rudeness, it's self-preservation!

I'm sure ND people also ignore others on purpose to be rude here and there. I can't speak for everyone, but, in my opinion, like most NT to ND interactions that go horribly wrong, it's a simple case of misunderstanding.

Autists, have you been accused of ignoring people? How has that affected you?

Neurotypicals, how does the thought that you are being ignored affect you? Can you explain why you feel and react the way you do?

Accessibility: Closeup view of a young woman's bright blue eyes with text that reads, 'Why your autistic loved one appears to "ignore" you.'


Disclaimer: My posts are based on my own personal life experiences as a late-diagnosed autistic woman and others in the autistic community of varying age and gender. While I am absolute in my statements, I do not ever mean all autistic people or all neurotypical people are 100% like "this" (whatever "this" is at the time), and that there are no exceptions. There are always exceptions. Rather, these posts are meant to begin dialogues across the neurotypes and help facilitate understanding on both sides.
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6 days ago

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Back to normal routine now after our Summer Activity Programme!

Mountain View Ranch exclusive Family Fun Session, Challenging Behaviour workshop and our Empowering Parents training are all coming very soon...
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Do you enjoy a good cuppa with a few biscuits while having a natter?
We are looking for 2 new people to join our team at our Charity Shop in Taffs Well for at least 3 hours a week! Our team is fabulous and a mix of all ages & personalities.

Please comment if interested

Good Luck to @BarryCoastguar and @LlantwitCG teams Who will be running the Llantwit Major 10k today for the teams 3 chosen Charities @AP_CYMRU
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